‘‘I’ll tell you a secret, something they don’t teach you in your temple. The gods envy us. They envy us because we‘re mortal, because any moment might be our last’’.
(Achilles speaking to Briseis in the movie Troy)
Friday, 5 August 2016
Wednesday, 3 August 2016
Frankly, I think this i-am-sorry-i-have-been-away thing is already too old. So, why don't we try something new? How about I gist you a bit of what I can say kept me away? You’ll like that, won’t you? Ermmm…I’m now in 400L. That’s final year for some people who ain’t going for Songhai. Yes, nah 1year remain for…so, let’s save the bottles for later. I was not with the crew that went in search for the moon, exams kept me. My exams was fine, thanks for asking...you were going to ask right? And one of my pretty sister lost her maiden name. Yeah, they said I am not supposed to cry. They said it’s a good thing. They said I’m your all grown up…like I was supposed to wait for a growing permit. Who else gets that often? One more thing¸ while I was away, I noticed everyone (including me) was blaming society for the several things they got wrong. That’s what I’m talking about today. Yeah, I’m happy to see you too.
I’m weary of listening or even hearing by chance the whining of gutless men and women. Those, who will take the slightest window to dodge responsibility for their poor choice. Anytime they succeed, even when it’s by pure luck, they’d say they took the risk, took impossible decisions, made sophisticated planned and this and that. But, when they fail at anything, someone is behind it! It has to be Iye and her gang of Azens (witches) and Osos (wizards). Pick a struggle my friend! I don’t wanna use this to dispute the Iye-factor. No! I just want us to think together. Aren’t we giving too much credit to society? More than they even deserve! My friend, the cause of your troubles is not and will not always be external! Think am nah!
Do you even listened to yourself? Your 'valid' excuses? You blamed society for how bleached your skin into snow. When, your problem simply was a poor self image. You blamed societal opinion for how you picked a course you never wanted and will never want study, hence the lack of drive. When, your only problem was your sac full of insecurity. Your blame your age and how society will raise their nose at you for how you ended in a leaking marriage. When, your problem was obviously inpatients and your nah-only-me-remain-wey-never-marry mentalit. Are you listening to yourself now? Should I remind you more? That’s how you got here. You are afraid, Irresponsible and a sissy. Are you offended? I’m not sorry. See, I know being responsible is not cheap, buy it's the only way.
Let me tell you some truth;
(1) when you choose your path (any path!), you become responsible for how you end up. You don’t compare! You don’t complain! You neither throw nor honor a blame party!
(2) Society is many things but your problem. They are your spectators, onlookers, challenge, springboard, market, reason, but never your problem.
(3) Remember 1 and 2!
Here’s for a fresh start. Take a thorough inventory of your life. Pick out the broken pieces. The part you are not proud of and you’d rather apportion blames. Those parts that you think are not your fault. Now, be responsible and accept that it’s your fault. Yeah…it's your fault. Then, start again. You will prefer it.